Use these ten techniques to improve your skills in this area.
Don’t lose touch with how you feel! Notice your emotional triggers and how you react to them. It is important to think before you say. Remember that the words that you let go can never be taken back. Your words can have an impact on other people. You should always keep your emotions in check since you do not want to end up saying some things you did not actually mean. If you observe how your emotions trigger and how you react to them you will be able to control your reactions over time. Doing so will surely help you in your everyday life at home, work, or any other place where you converse or socialize with other people.
Listen to your body. Your body will tell you if you are sad, angry, or upset. Learn how to listen when your body talks. It is important to listen to your body because your body can tell you a lot of things. Your body language says a lot about you. If you listen to your body, you will be able to learn how to control your actions. For example, when your body is telling you that you are sad, you will be able to act on it in order to resolve the issue. You will do a few things which will get rid of your sadness such as getting an ice cream or whatever floats your boat.
Honesty is best. You should not lie to yourself. It is easy to do when you don’t want to deal with something. Believe it or not, everyone else has the same feeling as you do. Don’t be afraid to show them. Lying will get you nowhere. At times, lying can lead you to dark, cold places. It is important to keep healthy relationships founded on honesty and trust. Talking honestly with others can definitely do a lot of good to your relationships.
Know who you are. If you have to, make a list of your good and bad points. It let’s you handle your emotions better if you know how you feel about things. Get a piece of paper and draw a line in the center. Put on left your good points. To the right, your bad points. Be honest to yourself. Write everything that you can think of. By doing so, you can assess your character or what kind of person you are. From there, you can make the necessary changes. If you think you are bad person, then it is about time to do something about it.
Learn body language. The whole body can communicate whether you want it to or not. If you are good, you can read anyone’s body language. And eye brow lift may be an eye brow lift to some but it can also mean “I don’t believe you”. The more you can read other’s body language the better you can use your body language to communicate your feeling to them. When there are no words to speak, it is the body which does the talking. As I have mentioned earlier, listening to your body is of paramount consideration. To achieve this, learn how to read body language. This will surely help you in your professional dealings in the future.
Start small. If you are not used to expressing your emotions, then practice a few of them at a time until you are more comfortable with showing them. Standing in front of a mirror helps. Showing your feelings helps you to communicate with other whether they are negative or positive emotions. The more you practice the better you will be. Remember the old saying practice makes perfect.
Don’t hold them in! Let your emotion go, holding them in leads to health issues you don’t want to have. You can suffer from a heart attack, breathing issues, rashes, hives, and other unpleasant problems. Letting your emotions out at the time they happen is better for your mental and physical health. If you hold too much emotions inside, you might find yourself bursting any time soon. It is not healthy. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to talk to a friend about your problems. Talking relieves you of the unwanted stress. It helps when you have someone to talk and share your concerns.
Write it out. Sometimes it is helpful to make a feeling journal and vent your feelings in a written manner. It is good to periodically review this journal and see if there is a pattern emerging. This is a very healthy outlet of your feelings. Creative art work, writing poems, and songs also allow you to be able to express your feelings in a healthy manner. These are healthy outlets to feelings and that is why children suffering from depression receive play therapy which gives them an outlet to express their feelings through symbolic play. Story writing, storytelling are also very healthy and useful therapeutic tools which facilitate expression of feelings in an indirect and subtle manner
Stop numbing your emotions. It is difficult to identify what you are feeling if you are using food, other substances or activities to numb your feelings. These activities can include self-harm, being too busy and unavailable, excessive and compulsive shopping, obsessing, or excessive exercise.Avoid numbing your emotions even if you are able to do so just long enough to recognize the feeling. If you are having a strong urge to engage in some numbing activity, consider what emotion you might be having.
Identify your “little and unimportant hurts”. More people walk around saying it’s not important or it doesn’t matter when it is very important and a big piece of hurting emotion is buried within them. They will describe this hurt and being small and unimportant. Men tend to do this rather frequently. Write down a detailed description of all the “little and unimportant hurts” that somehow don’t go away.