Parents have a powerful impact on the growth and development of their children. Parents tend to pass down certain habits, emotions, and behaviours to their children. Because of this, parents have the ability to impact their children’s’ lives more than anyone else.
Positive Parenting and Learned Optimism
Learned optimism is a theory that describes how optimism can be developed. Parents can use learned optimism to improve a child’s self-esteem in the long run.
In order to do so, parents can attempt to challenge their child’s negative thoughts or negative self-talk with positive affirmations. In this way, optimism can be learned and reinforced in children.
Fixed and Growth Mindset
Of course, praising children is fundamental in helping them to develop a good self-esteem; that said, there are ways in which you can praise children that will promote growth rather than show them that they don’t need to improve.
Parents who tell their kids, “You’re smart”; for example, provides them with the fixed mindset that they’re smart and don’t need to improve. Instead of saying this, parents should consider words like “You worked hard and it paid off.” or “You developed a good strategy”.
The fixed and growth mindset shows children that while they did a good job, they have room for improvement. This method of parenting develops self-esteem because their hard work is being affirmed, but it also shows them that they can improve.
When children finish their homework quickly and with ease, parents should attempt to challenge them with something harder rather than accept that the child has finished his or her homework.
In positive parenting, mothers and fathers must lead by example. They have to regulate their own emotions so that their children learn to do the same. In doing so, they can strengthen their bonds with their children by providing the children with positive affirmations.
Much like with the fixed and growth mindset, parents have to decide whether a situation can strengthen or weaken their relationships with their children. Instead of punishment, parents should focus on guidance.
Children can benefit greatly from the right teaching methods and the right parenting tricks. More and more, parents are turning toward positive parenting and the theories (like learned optimism and fixed and growth mindset) surrounding it to develop strong minds and self-esteems in their children.
Positive parenting essentially demands that parents lead their children by example. Rather than the classic, “Do as I say, not as I do” approach, parents are adopting a “Do as I do” attitude. The benefit of this is that children will learn to trust their parents more. By seeing their parents’ attitude toward a situation and seeing how it plays out, children learn to trust the opinion of their mother and father.